Changing the Way You Think
If you're new here, you may want to subscribe to any or all of the newsletters, using the "Subscribe" box in the right-hand navigation bar of this and other sections. For more information, visit the FAQ. Thanks for visiting!
You can make a determined effort to know the way you think. This can be done by drawing inferences from past experience. You can know why you have a fear for a particular activity or object by delving deep into the way you reacted to that fear or object. This will give you a better insight into your inner-mind. Once you understand the basic cause of a fear, you can take steps to overcome it.
Do you remember your first day at school? Were you afraid to leave your mom and dad to go to a new place? After a while, you enjoyed going to school. How was this possible? By analyzing and understanding, the way you overcame this fear can help you to conquer any other fear that you have.
Your behavior is highly influenced by external forces. These forces can be negative like violence, racism, poverty, crime and abuse — or they can be positive, like a loving family, best friends and supportive teachers. Like your past experience, you also can draw inference from these events. You can analyze your reaction to a particular event and then analyze the cause-effect relationship. By determining the cause and by understanding the effect, we can make a premeditated decision to overcome any negative effect of that event or use any positive effect to help you out at a later time.
Changing the Way You Think and Self-Reliance
Understanding your fears and taking steps to overcome them will go a long way in making you self-reliant. Your dependence on external factors and your fear or reluctance to do a certain activity can be greatly reduced. This will give you the self-confidence to achieve whatever you want.
Of course this is easier said than done. I suffer from social phobia and there are some places I just won’t go alone — public transportation really stresses me out. But I still make an effort.
To achieve self-reliance and self-confidence, you must fundamentally believe that you can change the way you think and act. This is key — if you don’t believe you can change, you’ll be right. And the reverse is true, as well.
You must move from a negative-centric world to a positive-centric world, thus making the law of attraction work for you rather than against you. You must make a conscious decision to close your mind to anything negative (not to the point of being a Pollyanna, but realistically). At the outset, you must comprehend the fact that there are some things in you that have to be changed for you to become a better individual.
A self-reliant person radiates confidence and is motivated. He or she can be a guiding light for others. Self-reliant people can motivate themselves and others to achieve a target or to accomplish a mission. They can instill confidence in others propelling them to become better individuals.
When each and every one of up becomes self-reliant and motivated, we can annihilate the evils that exist today to provide an improved world for future generations.